Emotional Arbitration — Should You Worry About the Outcome of Emotions or the Path You Take to Get There?
When emotions are in question, it’s not the outcome (end state) that matters rather a path you took to get there.
Nowadays people try so hard to find that one emotion that they believe can somehow become a be-all and end-all of their inner sense fulfillment. And to attain just that, people follow their emotional journeys(a journey that propels them towards pleasure and away from agony) blindfolded; thinking of them as an important step in the pursuit of their ambitions.
That’s right! Most people regard the pursuit of their self-satisfying emotion’s journey as a pursuit of their ambition because, in their opinion, it’s what they thrive to achieve.
They would give anything, do anything, or even sacrifice something valuable regardless of the circumstances and adversities they might face in their journey of achieving that specific emotion. For only in the pursuit of it do they find themselves as ‘making progress’ towards a better life, one that’d be overloaded with contentment.
While it’s a good thing not to give up on your ambitions and follow them wholeheartedly, however, nevertheless does this imply that one becomes blindfolded by emotional arbitrations so much so forth that rather than deriving something good out of it, a person starts to transform it into a nightmare on the whole.
Try understanding it this way, one human rights activist fights against oppression because apart from it being his job, it gives him a feeling of happiness (an emotion), and of course, it’s a good thing too. To fight against oppression effectively, he employs different tactics and methodologies. Now, these tactics and methodologies are important things because the moment he, under the influence of emotional arbitration, commits something against the law, he lands up straight in the prison; even though his main struggle was for oppression resolving. And of course, at the dawn or even during the pursuit of his emotional journey, he never thought he’d ever end up that way whilst in the pursuit of his emotional journey (happiness in this case). Once he lands up in the prison, only then does he realize that his blindfold pursuit of the emotional journey has landed him into the abyss.
So, now you say, should you worry about the outcome of the emotion or the path you take to get there?
I’d say it’s the path you should worry about because outcomes are a final thing once you reach them it’s a ‘game over’ point. However, as long as your path is correct, your pursuit of an emotional journey will prove helpful and will surely add to the outcome you’ll achieve finally.
Exactly like the human rights activist, once he lands in jail, it’s a game over for him and after that, whether he thinks about the outcome or the path he took, it won’t be helpful for his emotional journey, though he may learn a life lesson or two from it.
The thing is that these emotions are nothing that’d earn one a contended life that one chases after for so long, back and forth. It’s human nature to never remain contented with what is in the possession. Today it’s one thing, tomorrow it’d be other and then the other. This cycle never reduces let alone fading because there always exists a desire for more.
It’s not actually the desire, it’s rather a stubbornness to achieve something unknown to satisfy inner-self which is itself an interrogation point.
It’s vital to understand that the path you undertake for your emotional journey will always leave a mark on your emotional state which most people regard as ‘experience’. While this experience thing can be positive or negative, it’s all depended upon a person’s psychological emotion arbitration. The main point to worry about here is when it’s negative.
That’s because a negative impact will surely affect you and your emotional journey negatively by dragging you into situations that can cause depressions and other physical or mental issues.
Otherwise, it can render your journey all exhaustive and can adversely fluctuate your mood swings between happy and unhappy. Simply put, under the influence of your emotional arbitrations, your pursuit of an emotional journey might lead you to the wrong place.
Now, this definitely does not implies that people should stop their pursuit of an emotional journey. What it does implies is that:
Watch out for the path you undertake in your emotional journey’s pursuit. Because if your path is correct, the outcome of your emotions would naturally feel positive to your aesthetics as well as your physical being. However, if it’s not; let alone the aesthetics, even physically you’d completely land in an unknown, wrong place.
Do you agree with this? What do you think? Should you allow your emotional arbitrations to take the better of your emotional journey’s pursuit or should you align it with the righteous path for outcomes to become naturally fruitful?
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